This and, Marriage. Ugh.
I don’t know if this applies to me, yet, but I’ll reblog it for every single person who has to deal with this shit. What is it about personal life choices and belief systems that makes people so defensive? Probably the fact that evolution has taught us to only survive by processing things according to their relation to ourselves.
- I don’t want to get married or have kids young/at all = I think you made a mistake that I want to avoid in my own life
- I don’t want to stay at home with my kids = I think I’m better and smarter than you
- I breastfeed/want to send my kids to an alternative school/private school/want to co-sleep = I think you’re a bad mother
- I’m a vegetarian/vegan = please explain to me again why you like to murder animals
- I’m a feminist = I think you’re oppressing me/I think you’re oppressed
- I don’t want my father walking down the aisle because I think it’s patriarchal bullshit = I hate you dad
- I believe in a different religion = I think you’re a gullible idiot
- I want to travel/leave town = I think you’re a sheltered idiot
Sometimes it’s easier to be needlessly offended than to consider the fact that someone else’s world doesn’t revolve around you. The majority of the time when someone tells you they’re going to do something differently, you’re not thinking “they’re wrong”, you’re not thinking, “I’m better off” - you’re not thinking “they’ve got it better”, or “I’m so resentful”. All you’re thinking is, “if this is their choice, what do they think of mine?”
And that question makes people fucking nutty.
(Source: preservedcucumbers, via ghostofatotalstranger)
